How to get HAPPY!

Last week we took a look at the research findings on the characteristics shared by happy individuals. These are: optimism, self-confidence, extraversion and self-efficacy.

For suggestions on how to build optimism check out my article on dealing with setbacks. For a proven and very simple technique to develop your self-confidence, please read my article about self-talk. To boost extraversion and the enjoyment you gain from your relationships I recommend you read my article on building positive relationships.

Let’s now turn our attention to self-efficacy: a definition and tools to cultivate it. (more…)

What do HAPPY people have in common?

Another interesting snippet of research this week examining the personality traits common to happy individuals. The best news is that these are attributes that we can train and cultivate – more on that next week. According to Caroline Adams Miller, a leading positive psychologist, these are the Big 4: (more…)

Double your joy by learning to SAVOUR

Last weekend I had the great privilege of attending a friend’s wedding which turned out to be one of the happiest, most jubilant celebrations I can ever remember. Just reflecting on it now instantly buoys my mood.

It’s got me thinking what was it that made this particular wedding so joyful? While there are a number of different underlying reasons, the one that leaps out at me most was the quality of “savouring” evident in the whole day, from the beautiful religious ceremony to the stunning reception at Luna Park on Sydney Harbour. (more…)

How to deal with SETBACKS

When in the pursuit of any personally meaningful goal, life will inevitably deal you setbacks.

How can we develop the resilience we need in order to keep things in perspective and to get on with the task in the face of these setbacks?

Seligman’s research on learned optimism shows us the way… (more…)

What is SELF-CARE?

Self-care can broadly be defined as personal health maintenance undertaken with the intention of improving or restoring health, or treating or preventing disease. I’d like to add the purpose of ‘flourishing’ to this definition and to promote the notion of thinking broader than just nourishing physical health.

When we think about practices to sustain good health and wellbeing, the most common themes are good nutrition, exercise, relaxation, sleep, hygiene, minimizing health hazards like caffeine, alcohol, and all of these are valuable, helpful elements to consider. Less often considered are those things that directly enhance psychological functioning – the things that alter how we perceive the world, our place in it and the quality of our interactions with other people.

In addition to caring for your body and nourishing your insides, I’d like to take an introductory look at some of the self-care tools that make you happier by nurturing your mental, emotional, social and spiritual bodies!