Even when I lose I’m winning: The secret to harmonious relationships

I’ve been pondering these beautiful and insightful words from singer John Legend.

They’ve helped me embrace our planned move to the UK. While I adore Sydney life, I know that for my precious family unit to really flourish as a whole, we need make a move. Whatever choices I have to make to facilitate that, I still win because what I value most is protected.

When we learn to embrace this concept in our close relationships, much conflict drops away. It’s a powerful notion, seeing ourselves and our loved one as being part of the one whole – there is no competition, no winner, no loser, just a team that plays together with the same purpose at heart.

The term ‘other half’ is often used, but perhaps is not often enough absorbed into how we think, feel and act in everyday life. Another way we are challenged to evolve as beings, by chipping away at our sense of ego.

Powerful words indeed – what do they mean for you?

Relationship Booster #6: give each other space

And the final tip for this week’s theme of boosting relationships is to give each other space to enjoy solo pursuits. This morning Daddybear went chasing waves and I relished time with my girls at Balmoral Beach. All things in balance. Sometimes having an opportunity to miss each other makes for an extra sweet home coming.

So today marks the end of week 6… just two weeks to go of my ‘8 weeks to a better bodymind’ challenge. If you embarked on this challenge with me, or if you have just stumbled upon it now, you might like to take a moment to review the week that’s just been and make some plans for the week to come. What’s working well for you on the health, happiness and fitness front and where can you make some improvements? Keep your eye on the prize and make the daily commitment to self-care. It is time to reclaim your vitality!

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Relationship Booster #5: Give thanks together

Tonight I am having a “gratitude dinner” with my little family, acknowledging the blessings in our lives. We will set the intention to reminisce about past happy events, savour current joyful things and anticipate good things to come. It is one of my favourite things to do and a wonderful activity to share with your children and loved ones. Wishing you and yours great health and happiness.

Relationship Booster #4: Watch your words

As week 6 of my ‘8 weeks to a better bodymind challenge’ draws to a close, I have been really enjoying the commitment to nurturing my relationships. How have you been going following these tips? I hope you’re seeing the upward spiral of joy in action too.

One of my favourite tips: today I am watching my words. I will be mindful of the ratio of positive to negative statements I make to my loved ones… it is so important to balance expressions of gratitude, admiration and affection with criticism.

Research has shown that to sustain a relationship you need a minimum of three positive statements for every critical statement. If you want your relationships to flourish, aim for a ratio of 5:1. Watch your words and start to notice your ratios of positive to negative statements.

Strike the right balance today and see what blossoms. 

Relationship Booster #3: Make time to connect

Today I am making time to reconnect with a loved one. Is there someone you haven’t spoken to in a while? It can be in person, via mail, over the phone, anything, just reach out.

Relationships don’t flourish on their own, so make time to nurture them. The rewards will keep multiplying.

Is there a relationship in your life that needs some nurturing, maybe even the one you have with yourself? Sometimes we just need an impartial sounding board or someone to brainstorm some ideas with to help get things in perspective and back on track.

I’m here to help, just get in touch: suzy@suzyreading.co.uk