Reclaim your vitality! Nurture your physical body.

7 weeks in and I am a new woman. Self-care is not selfish! Your vitality boosting tip for today is: take care of some ‘personal’ incompletions.

It’s ok to nurture your physical body! Invest some time in a bit of grooming and feel how it lifts your self-esteem. Book in for a haircut. Take care of your toes. Ladies – if your body has changed over the last 8 weeks or if you just haven’t done so for a while, get measured and invest in a new bra.

Notice any niggling physical aches and pains? Take action and check in with your GP/physio/osteo/whoever! Living with discomfort can make us grumpy and drain our patience.

Give yourself permission to address these incompletions and reclaim your vitality. Let these actions be an affirmation of self-worth and imbue them with a sense of gratitude for the great gift your physical body is!

It’s time to make peace with your self-doubt

Do any of these sound familiar?

“I’m not good enough”

“I don’t know enough”

 “I’m not strong enough”

The list goes on… What is the statement that rears its head for you? We all have at least one, one niggly refrain that voices itself every so often, or perhaps a lot of the time. I think it is a very normal, human thing to have sentences like these that float in and out of our minds. In case you’re wondering, mine is the ‘I don’t know enough’ one…

What I am learning is that I don’t necessarily have to silence these statements, or stamp them out for good; I can make peace with them and learn to greet them with a smile and still get on with doing what needs to be done. Something along the lines of “feel the fear and do it anyway”.

What I want to talk about today goes right to the heart of all these “I am not enough” statements. I want to share it with you in the hope that it can start to ameliorate the potency of your particular phrase.

This is what I want you to know, not just on an intellectual basis but a cellular basis – by that I mean I want it to sink into every cell and fibre of your being!  I want you to sit with these words, drink them in, repeat them internally, out loud if that suits, and let them truly percolate: (more…)

Only talk to yourself as you would your best friend.

This week’s post is short, sweet and hopefully life-changing! We’re all familiar with the saying “you can’t love someone else until you’ve learnt to love yourself”… Just how do we learn to do it? Here is a way: only talk to yourself as you would your best friend:

  • Observe the way you talk to yourself (your inner voice and what you vocalise)
  • Only talk to yourself as you would your best friend
  • When you notice yourself doing anything but talking to yourself as you would your best friend, be gentle, smile, maybe have a laugh, appreciate just how hard this task can be, consciously say “I’m not doing that to myself anymore” and rephrase what you’ve said. Don’t let failure here be yet another thing you berate yourself over. (more…)

How to Design your Self-Care Ritual

Take a good look at the 12 strategies from Part One (gratitude, optimism, avoiding overthinking, practicing kindness, nurturing relationships, coping, forgiveness, flow, savouring, committing to goals, spirituality, caring for body and soul) and decide which ones resonate most with you – consider your personality, your strengths, your interests, your available resources.

Identify the top three that inspire you and find ways to practice those skills. Look for ways you can do more of it in your current schedule, prioritise it, actually structure it into DAILY life by making an appointment with yourself if necessary, set goals about it, get coaching to develop it, fully commit to it.

For guidance on effective goal setting techniques see my article entitled: “It’s time to review your New Year’s Resolutions: are you serving them and are they serving you?” found at (more…)