Even when I lose I’m winning: The secret to harmonious relationships

I’ve been pondering these beautiful and insightful words from singer John Legend.

They’ve helped me embrace our planned move to the UK. While I adore Sydney life, I know that for my precious family unit to really flourish as a whole, we need make a move. Whatever choices I have to make to facilitate that, I still win because what I value most is protected.

When we learn to embrace this concept in our close relationships, much conflict drops away. It’s a powerful notion, seeing ourselves and our loved one as being part of the one whole – there is no competition, no winner, no loser, just a team that plays together with the same purpose at heart.

The term ‘other half’ is often used, but perhaps is not often enough absorbed into how we think, feel and act in everyday life. Another way we are challenged to evolve as beings, by chipping away at our sense of ego.

Powerful words indeed – what do they mean for you?

5 Proven Strategies to Improve your Relationships

I recently had the fortune of going to a Kitchen Tea event for a close friend and one of the ‘games’ included asking all the guests to write on a wooden spoon some advice for a long and happy marriage. I was grateful that the “Losada ratio” came to mind (more on that later!). Applying this technique has personally made a tangible difference to the quality of my close relationships!

It made me curious to take a closer look at other gems that positive psychology research has shown to build happier, more rewarding relationships. The best thing is, these are not just fluffy concepts or platitudes, these are tried and tested techniques that you can learn and have been proven to build more positive relationships.

Take a closer look with me…

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